You bed wet right?This post will help you Understand what is happening to you better...
Good day Icechuks,
Please indulge me and this my long response to that your post about The Bedwetting Spouse even though I wrote a comment but I would like to add a few things for the purpose of those of us adults that still struggle with it and those that have spouses or children that still struggle with it.
I was once the bedwetting girlfriend. You see, I didn't achieve night control of my bladder until about 19years of age. Even now, I wet the bed like twice a year when I go to sleep dead tired. There was almost nothing my mother did not do. Regulating food and water intake at night, flogging/ punishing me when I bed wet. I remember one day she wanted to flog me and just burst into tears. The only thing she didn't do was give me wall gecko to eat (a popular local remedy).
I met this guy about two years ago and it was 'like at first sight'. About two months later, I went over to his place after working for 57 hours straight (48hour call plus normal 8-5 the following day). I slept almost immediately I got there and my body did not move until 7am the next morning. I opened my eyes and felt wetness and I realized that my village people had come for me. I woke my 'boyfriend' up and told him that I had wet the bed. I said I was very tired and I was sorry it happened. He told me there was no need to apologize and this young man carried me from the bed and cleaned my mess, washed my shorts, my panty and the bedsheet, then flipped over the mattress and brought me back to the bed to go back to sleep.
Haaa! I was shocked and weak. This same bedwetting that my former fiancé said I'm possessed and have a spirit husband because I wet his bed once after a year of dating.
Well, I and this my mess-cleaner are now engaged and making preparations for our wedding. He has never mentioned it, I'm the one who would sometimes ask "babe do you remember that day I 'piss' on your bed". One guy that was on my case to leave him then because he's a 'small boy' and not as rich as he is, I asked him if he could wash the pant of a girl who wet his bed and he said that's embarrassing. I said 'ehen, just leave me for the one who did it for me'.
Bedwetting is caused by a number of medical (and maybe spiritual) reasons some of which are:
Neurological developmental delay: in other words, the person is just late in achieving bladder control but will eventually stop Bedwetting at a later age with/without intervention.
Genetics: a lot of people who bed wet will find out that one of their parents or uncles or aunties did not stop bedwetting until a very late age
Insufficient production of Anti-Diuretic hormone. This hormone basically reabsorbs water from the kidney thus reducing our urine volume. A larger amount of ADH is produced at night in normal people, helping us to be dry till we wake up. But some people that bedwet don't produce enough of this hormone at night therefore their urine production goes on as if it is daytime.
Overactive bladder or a small bladder: these people have bladders that can only hold a small volume of urine before signaling to the brain that it is full so they bedwet continuously through the night.
Secondary nocturnal enuresis: this is when a person who has previously achieved bladder control suddenly starts to bed wet again. Can be caused by a variety of reasons ranging from Psychological trauma, Urinary tract Infection, Diabetes Mellitus type 2, Diabetes Insipidus...
Sleep disorders: Heavy sleeping, sleepwalking, sleep apnea.
PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS
For a lot of people, simple lifestyle modification will work.
Reduce food and water intake to bare minimum once it is 6pm.
Set multiple alarms on your phone for every two hours between 10pm-6am (12am, 2am, 4am, 6am). This is what worked for me. I recommend this for everyone of us struggling. Only that you must be disciplined enough to stand up once your alarm rings. After about 4-8weeks of doing this constantly, your internal body clock will wake you up at those times with or without an alarm. If you stop setting alarms and your body clock goes out of sync with the urination times, start setting the alarm again.
If the two above do not work, it is time to see your doctor, who will evaluate you and give a suitable medical solution to your specific problem.
For those of us that believe in God, pray earnestly for God to help you tackle this embarrassing problem, because I believe that the devil also uses 'medical' problems to afflict people.
I would also like to encourage people who are lucky enough not to be tackling this problem not to look at the rest of us like demons or make fun of us, We already have a psychological battle going on in our heads. I probably would make fun of people who bedwet if I didn't have to go through it myself. I read a comment of someone who left a seemingly good man (who is now married) because of Bedwetting, I can assure you that his wife knew about it before marriage and decided to help him through it. sometimes if you love someone, you help them through their difficulties and they will be eternally grateful to you. But then again, it's your choice to pick what you can or cannot deal with in a spouse.
Please BVs add in your comments below, practical solutions that have worked for you or someone you know.
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